5 weeks remain til next chapter starts

[istherehope]

Thanks S! That is exactly my hope too...Of course he MIGHT end up freaking out and staying with a friend, but I think I have decided that this time if someone needs to leave, it will be him. At first this scared me to death, but I've realized that it's harder to be the one leaving as you give up all of your comforts. He would be giving up the dogs too. I need some stability, even if the uncertainty of not knowing when he was coming back would break my heart.

Anyway fingers crossed that things just go so well between now and then that this gives him a way to "save face" and have me move back in without ever actually agreeing to it. Of course I will get a real game plan from Jody as the day gets closer...

Funny thing looking at some old MLC posts, there was one former MLC poster, i.e. a man who'd been through one himself, who said that at first he didn't trust his W, and that she had changed. He kept trying to push her, to see if she would get into fights, to see whether her changes were real. He was almost angered by the fact that she was so calm and supportive when this wasn't how she'd been before. At times this made him go dark on her as he didn't know how to deal with it. I sort of feel like this with my H now. I have been extra-supportive over the last 2 weeks, no backslides, validating scary things etc. Contact has been less than ever (with the exception of the day in Dublin), and much of it has been antagonistic. Funny thing is we never fought about finances before EVER, and this is now where he chooses to vent at me. I think I have handled myself well, and am even smiling a little bit now. In a way their venom gives us the chance to show 180s. I think he is very confused by me, but hey he's confused by life right now!

Thanks for the post!

ITH