New Thread-Husband Moved in With OW(T2L)

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Jgrind {{{{hugs and prayers}}} to you today. The only thing missing from your day is locust! what a day. I don't miss basements after hearing about yours flooding.
Wondering if you have had any additional coachbusting sessions with counselor? I would advice you to use them now for some solution based goals. Even with H bringing up atty papers etc, I think he is doing what he thinks is expected of him and with OW pushing this. My worry is that they will be 2 functioning alcoholics turning into non-function drunks. I would get legal advice from an atty. Also it might be worth putting in your papers that H cannot be drinking when he picks up the kids etc. You need to let him know it is not acceptable and you need to protect your own kids. With my H drinking again, I am going to tell him that he cannot drive with D even with one drink. I worry because Dallas plays tonight and my H has gotten in the habit of going to sports bar and drinking to oblivion. Part of it is because he has not told D's he is moving at the end of the month. he is overcome with guilt and I will not say anything to justify it. On the night we had argument, I said he has been so upset because he is not listening to God's plan. I said it is right in front of you and you do not see. As for stopping by I know he meant "not to stop by" that is because the OW works for him and if she gets "seen" they both would be fired. I am sure he will sneak her in after dark. It is so sleazy. Otherwise she has her own house across town and that is why he cannot move there. He chose to move out here because I mentioned how tough it will be for D if he moved clear across town. But did he have to find a place I have to drive by every day. Rip my heart out.
Also talk about a possibly 180. Maybe your H does not think you care for him anymore especially since he became emotionally detached. Sad you could not tell him you were diagnosed with depression last year. Shows how you both drifted. When I have done inventory on myself I see how many times I rejected H and not sure if I can overcome all the hurt and pain.
Today will be better. take care...