Well I think H sees this as we have always HAD a joint budget and I CHOSE to plan an expensive trip and use money that WAS ours toward the trip instead of his education. Now, even though we might not stay together, I still OWE him the money for the tuition if that makes sense...Of course his mind is not making a lot of sense today, nor for that matter for the past 3 months!
Yeah financially speaking I know he doesn't want out. We both make good money, but I have bonuses and such that we really rely on. I am certainly not going to threaten to pull them or anything like that though! I'm just trying to steel myself for how he will feel when he finally understands that next month's budget is REALLY short. Let's just hope I'm in his good graces on that day :). When I get back, assuming that we are able to at least keep a joint budget, I may ask him if he would like to take the lead on it going forward. I know he won't want to, as he is "too busy", but I want to try and give him control over EVERYTHING and then it can be his choice.
By the way he sent a slightly nicer email after that last post, realizing he had some more financial aid coming. I was very nice and replied with a few good words about how I was glad it was getting sorted and a smiley face.
So yes as soon as I'm off work for the day, I'll be hitting the gym. I have spent a lot of time on the boards today, but feel like I have been fairly productive as I've been reading about MLC, and finding this seems to fit H fairly well...
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
