W and I went to a Stevie Wonder concert, a fantastic gig and we both enjoyed it very much. W commented on how much she enjoys the two of us going to such events. Something I noticed is that when we go to events like this W likes us to dress very smart she wants us to stand out rather than look scruffy. As we walk through the crowds she likes me to hold her hand and lead the way, that in someway is telling something.
FIL went into hospital for his operation, the surgery was classed as intermediate not major intrusion as they were able to remove the pea sized tumour and part of the surrounding lung area through key hole sized incisions. The operation was a success and 3 days later he's back home to recuperate and prepare for some chemotherapy. Modern medical procedures never cease to amaze me.
Our 11th Anniversary was on the 13th, W and I exchanged cards, I can't remember the last time we did this, last years even passed unnoticed this year we at least made the effort. W asked what I had planned for the evening, but unfortunately I had nothing planned as she was going to be at the hospital with FIL we both knew this but I think she was just checking to see if I had gone above and beyond the call of duty. Anyway before bed we enjoyed a glass of wine together, however I think I annoyed her cos I tried to initiate some intimacy but she wasn't interested and it took me a while to taker the hint. I indirectly mentioned this in the morning and she said she was stressed about FIL and his op and the fact that she's been staying with her parents 6 weeks now with no end in sight when the original plan was just to be there 3 weeks.
Overall things are ok, W and I are both stressed but stressed for different reasons my main stress is money. But I'm also a bit concerned about intimacy, or lack of it, but more so cos we don't talk about it and about our needs. If I was to be blunt I know W is far more into sex then she ever shows to me and I find this little frustrating. I think I'll give this a bit more time before trying talking to about it, but I fear if we don't get an understanding of each others needs we'll end up in another SSM.
