What do I do now?

[lost3031]

H and I have had some setbacks. We've had a couple of intense conversations about getting back together and all that it would entail, as well as the feelings that we would have to overcome to make it work. Needless to say, there are some things that have proven to be stumbling blocks - trust on both ends is the biggie. The other is that I would have to do a complete 180 (again) in my life in order for it to even work - move back home, new job, etc., which scares both of us because neither of us can know if I will be happy because I'm the one who has to change everything. Add to the fact that we're both so tired of the sitch that we don't know if we want to put forth any more effort... it feels like we're backed up against a wall with nowhere to go. It feels like we're in the middle of some tragic love story movie - two people who still love each other but can't be together because too much has pulled them apart and they don't know how to find their way back to each other. Have any of you discovered the key to finding your way back to your spouse???