What a great night! Sounds like you were a DB master! Well done on validating your H's feelings and not reacting. Also well done on going home when he clearly wanted more :).
I don't see one negative in the sitch. I know it mus be frustrating not to know, but as everyone says on the board, it's the actions that count. I'd keep remembering too that your H is very young, so it is really important that he come to this decision on his own and not feel pressured. That will help you to avoid something like this down the road.
Great work all around! ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
Wooo Hooo Daisy!! Sounds like an amazing weekend!!! I'm sorry about your toe though. I hope you feel better. Things are going great with you guys and you are right I am jealous of the times you guys spent together!! LoL.
Good luck also on Tuesday with the last MC session. You'll make the best of it!!
My toe is much better today, looks like Jen was right, just a sprain!
I am trying my best to be patient. Today I decided to "go dark" for the day and just give him a little space after spending so much time together. He can't miss me if I am always there, right? So I did not text him all day and was getting kind of sad because he was not texting me and then right as I was logging on here he sent a text. Nothing important just a funny bumper sticker he had seen. But he reached out and that was what I was waiting for.
I am excited for counseling tomorrow actually. I am sure that it will be more of the same but at least it will give an opening for any R talks that might need to be addressed, although right now I can't think of any. So we shall see. If anything does come up I can guarentee that we will not have an argument about it this time. If it gets tense I am going to drop it. I need to get better at not forcing the issue.
He has plenty of space to think it all out. I think ITH is right in that he has to make this decision of his own free will and not because of any pressure I put on him. That way it will be a real and genuine change and that is the only kind I want anyways.
Glad your toe is feeling better. Poor thing. Good for you for going dark..it does make them wonder and reach out. Doesn't it feel good when they reach out first
I have a really positive feeling about your situation. Your H is SHOWING you how much he cares and is committed. I wouldn't worry yet that he isn't TELLING you this. I think you are very fortunate to have this "episode" early in the relationship vs. later on when you possibly have children and a more settled lifestyle. This doesn't mean I'm saying if it doesn't work out it's easier to move on, not at all. Instead I'm saying that your H is able to "get this out of his system" at a young age, and in all likelihood not have to deal with it 10 years down the road. If you can build a strong foundation from such a young age, I think you are golden and have great things ahead of you. I'm really happy for you.
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
You're such a good encourager! I think things are headed in a really good direction and I know that there is still a ways to go but it feels like we are moving forward again where I was feeling stuck a little while ago. Just a couple of weeks ago actually. Crazy how time changes things.
Today is our counseling. I hope he calls to say he is on his way soon. The session is not until this evening but he was going to come up early and spend the day with me. However I am waiting him out. I am not going to call him and see what time he is coming. No pressure!
Hi Daisy! Great plan to let him show up on his own. My xh hated it when I would call him to see when he'd be home. To the WAS it's like we're checking up on them and it shows mistrust. If he said he'd be there he'll show up and probably give a good reason if he thinks it's a bit late.
I hope you have a great time with him today And I'm glad your toe is just sprained (I love being right lol)
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
My toe is good. The nail is a little red, like underneath, burst blood vessel? Who knows.
I'm excited to see him! I think he might be a little nervous about today because after last session we had that major argument. So today he might be a little more hesitant but he should be awake soon and ready to go.
In counseling today I am going to try and listen a lot. I have been pretty good at letting my husband do the talking but last session I think I did too much and when the counselor was talking about my list of "boundaries" he said to my husband "not to pick on you here but I wouldn't call this a list of boundaries I would just call this a list of things that make marriages work" and then he said there was a red flag next to the item about not spending one on one time with other women. So I think maybe that clamed my hubby up a little. Which is also why I think individual sessions from this point on will help as he can really tackle those issues with my hubby and he can say what he wants to without worrying about me bringing it up later. In my individual sessions I need to focus on not having expectations, not nagging/bitching, and learning how to deal with any/all anger issues.
The work will pay off! You have an H willing to put in the work from his side too. I think this is exciting. We all should have gone to counseling before we got married, or in the beginning stages or something. This is like a new chance for you to have a really good marriage. I really believe this is true. Make sure you post as soon as your session is over!
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
I hope you feel better. Things are going great with you guys and you are right I am jealous of the times you guys spent together!! LoL. 
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