Ugh and he is doing it AGAIN. He is going off on a tangent about how he hopes we enjoyed the last vacation because he may not be finishing school because of it. This is exactly what he did last week, got really angry, and then sent that dreadful email. The problem I think is that he gets angry, feels guilty, then has to tell me that he can't be around me. Now he just said he is pretty upset about this and doesn't want to talk for awhile.
Me, "I'm sorry H, I understand." H: "It's pretty bad that we both cared so little about this. I know this is not just you but it is definitely us."--the one time he uses "us" is in a negative way. In my head--that was NEVER the case! It's in the budget, but I can't make future references now. So I only say, "there will be money at the end of October to cover the rest, and I'll let you be now". He continues, "I don't want to go anywhere, not even Mexico until this is resolved.", Me: "Of course, I understand."
He is acting as though that vacation cost 10K or something. It didn't. It did make him behind on his payments for last year's tuition, which was bad, but it did not compromise on this year's tuition. Should I say anything more about this? I assume that the answer is no, but he is completely misguided and angry about something that didn't even happen, and is saying I didn't care when I ALWAYS cared...I feel like this gets added to his list of why he doesn't matter in our M. Again, we were very late on MY MBA fees too, but this has NEVER come up, not even once. Is there no way for me to redeem myself here? I REALLY want to mention some of these things to him...
And to top this all off, now we REALLY don't have the money to be apart like this, but he will very much resent me if I bring this up. Now if I WERE to come back early, he would feel completely trapped and resentful, like I had plotted this somehow. In actuality I have given up EVERYTHING in the budget to make sure he can pay on tuition, amounts that he doesn't even really owe for this year, but he is really angry about. So now we have 10 more days before I am paid, and if I don't get back to the house early next month, I do think we will go over budget, but I can't bring this up in any way. I don't want to push him away more than I have, so am SO unsure of what to do next here.
I was good. I didn't say anything. I feel like I am being MAJORLY tested though, as he is being completely unfair...
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Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
