Then there are the text messages. My wife ending a text to OM2 with "Love u" or a text "lunchtime took more out of me than I realized, not complaining can't wait to cya".
Texts from W to OM1:"I had a fab time last nt and this a.m! Can't stop :)ing... Thank you babe"
OM1 to W "hope 2 hold u soon..." "Thx for your sweet note and another amazing night."
That's not all, but, you get the idea.
There is really no doubt in my mind that she is screwing around with these two. If I asked her why she isn't sleeping in her bed, she would just say that she gets together with friends and she either fell asleep on the couch, or she had too much to drink and didn't want to risk another DUI by driving etc. I've had this conversation too many times about things that seem obviously wrong and yet she twists it around so that I'm wrong.
I don't want to have that conversation again. I want to have hard proof so that when she starts to say that they are just friends, I can with confidence tell her to cut the sh*t.
Dan
Dan, How much more concrete do you need to get? "lunchtime took more out of me than I realized, not complaining can't wait to cya" Is there really any other way to interpret this??? Spare yourself the additional pain and money and forget about the PI. Having been BTDT, I had plenty of circumstantial evidence and everyone around me convinced of what I didn't want to bring myself to believe and what W wouldn't admit to. I continued snooping until I found (short of walking in on them together) the holy grail of proof. Painful is an understatement, and I wish that I had never uncovered what I did. The words I read still haunt me. As I write this, I struggle with advice because I can understand how you're feeling. You ask your W a question that you already know the answer to you get a lame excuse or accusations.
What I'm trying to say is that you know that she is having an affair(s), so the question is are you willing to continue trying to save the marriage or is this a deal breaker? If you want to save the marriage... STOP snooping!! Knowing more will make things that much more difficult.
can't wait to cya".