5 weeks remain til next chapter starts

[istherehope]

So just to add to this again...we all know I can't go very long without posting!

I've been reading through the MLC stuff a lot today, and it has been pretty helpful. I'm more determined than ever not to initiate contact or to let him get to me in any way, doesn't mean I won't cry about the sitch later, but not about specific conversations, just about the overall picture. There have been a few forwarded emails on his tuition, something that I know he's angry with me about. I've ignored them. Then he just IMd about owing money. He said that he would try to use my card, and I told him it was a joint card with his, going toward a common balance. Not sure why he didn't know that before, but my guess is that this is somehow freaking him out like everything else I say with "we", "us". etc. Other than that I have been answering with one-word responses, "yes", "yep", and "OK". From my perspective when he actually wants to talk, we can talk. I am not going to be baited into an uncomfortable conversation about finances in the meantime, and I am not going to let his dark cloud interfere with my positive feelings about the M.

I need to remember that we're in stage 1, I listen and validate, and every once inawhile Stage 2 moments come out, and we talk about iPods and books. For the moment though, we're not quite there...

ITH