Why do you need to see a path? The unpackaged experience. Let it happen! Sure, you can go on the trips and stuff will look just like it does in the brochures but none of the people will be smiling the same way.
I am addicted to goal setting... So do you think that I should just make it a goal to keep putting myself out there knowing that I am feeling emotionally unavailable, and hope there is someone out there that will trigger emotional availability? That is a path I can see maybe... Sorry - I need to see at least a hint of a path in the fog... It is just who I am...
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Unless you've suppressed your emotional life to build your professional life
I don't think I did that... However, since my D, I have been using my professional life to avoid having to face the lack of an emotional life.
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It's funny, because I used to be in the midwest and that was such a big deal, but out here in NorCal it isn't.
You are so right. It is a bigger deal in the midwest that CA. Humongo Client is from CA. Although I have done some silly things to hide my gender as I established my firm...
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I got angry and replied that I was sad to see the assumption of affiliation was focused on the man. In fact, the wife had joined our faculty and we were very pleased to have her. What happened next? Poison pen emails in return! That I was insinuating something and I should stick to the facts! Hmmm, I thought I was.
Thanks for doing what you did. It is men like yourself that have helped me get where I am in my career. I think over time I myself have become somewhat cynical and just let those battles go...perhaps sold a bit of my soul to buy peace of mind... It is funny isn't it how men get the bad rap for making these assumptions - but women do it too.
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I don't know much about Indian culture other than my friend - are you Indian?
Yes - I am. I was born and mostly raised here. I spent a couple of years of my childhood in Chennai and New Delhi. I was married to a German from Hamburg. So I am culturally confused too.
Thank you again for posting. I also have this tendency to disgree when I first hear something and then after a few days change my mind... So I appreciate your posting your thoughts. They will percolate in my brain
It is men like yourself that have helped me get where I am in my career. I think over time I myself have become somewhat cynical and just let those battles go...perhaps sold a bit of my soul to buy peace of mind... It is funny isn't it how men get the bad rap for making these assumptions - but women do it too.
