Proof is a fluid concept. I don't have any proof of anything wrong. What I have is a bunch of circumstantial evidence.
My wife has always had trouble accepting favors from people and wants to return the favor as quickly as possible. Six months ago she told me that when she goes out, she doesn't let guys at the bar buy her drinks. In July, she let OM1 pay for a condo in the mountains for the weekend.
She sleeps elsewhere than the place she is renting frequently. I would guess that she doesn't sleep at home more than 3 nights a week.
When I was snooping through her things, she had 2 voicemails from a man calling her honey and sweetheart and saying "I love you so much I need to see you one more day" or something to that effect.
Then there are the text messages. My wife ending a text to OM2 with "Love u" or a text "lunchtime took more out of me than I realized, not complaining can't wait to cya".
Texts from W to OM1:"I had a fab time last nt and this a.m! Can't stop :)ing... Thank you babe"
OM1 to W "hope 2 hold u soon..." "Thx for your sweet note and another amazing night."
That's not all, but, you get the idea.
There is really no doubt in my mind that she is screwing around with these two. If I asked her why she isn't sleeping in her bed, she would just say that she gets together with friends and she either fell asleep on the couch, or she had too much to drink and didn't want to risk another DUI by driving etc. I've had this conversation too many times about things that seem obviously wrong and yet she twists it around so that I'm wrong.
I don't want to have that conversation again. I want to have hard proof so that when she starts to say that they are just friends, I can with confidence tell her to cut the sh*t.
can't wait to cya".