Well.. the first step would be to see what his side of the papers are asking for.
It's not a turn that I hoped for.. and if I am being honest.. I don't think any of the actions taken so far have "made up his mind".
Is it a possibility.. absolutely.
I was very clear about that.
There is a possibility that "Pool Gate" set things in motion. There is also the possibility that this was his plan all along.
From the beginning of all this.. this was always possible.
This does bring a new level of "Emotion" to the table..
The papers will tell us alot about where this is coming from.
How many people have gotten papers and then had things change? You can never tell what will happen. All I can say is people reach out when they feel like something is about to happen.
Best thing I can say is.. talk it out if you need to Christa.
Lets look at the papers.. try your best not to respond "Emotionally". If things are fair.. and agreeable.. then move that direction. If things are not.. then go that way. Again.. you go into protect mode.. not attack mode.
Again.. maybe its my simple mind.. but I just would rather see people making smart choices.. rather than waiting on someone to make stupid choices for them. I have sat in a L office making stupid choices for someone else. I have done and said a lot of stupid things. So.. I still stand on this is a walk of you.. and who you want to be.
Nothing me and Christa have done will "bite" her in court.. If anything it shows how mad he still is. Who knows.. showing up in court.. or the L office and separating permanently might have a effect on him.. in a good way. Or it builds on itself and it ends in D. I will still stand by Christa.. hopefully to help her make smart decisions that help her down the road. At least he is making a choice.. I gotta assume he knows the consequences of his choices. In the end he is the one that will have to live with them. It was not that long ago.. Christa was giving him papers.. and moving on with life.. without him. Interesting how time changes things. You can never assume to know what the other person is thinking.. all you can do is make smart choices.. and understand where those choices will leave you. If you can be "happy" with the outcome.. either way.. you win.
If you really look at the LRT that they recommend here.. it is a action.. of no action. They recommend it because you will likely not make smart choices with all your "Emotion" running around. Some people draw closer to the person doing the LRT.. some people pull away. By choosing a action.. you allow for something different to happen. If you don't choose a course of action for you.. things will surely go the same way.
You also cannot discount that life goes in cycles.. or circles.. so here we are right back where we started from.. when Christa was making the choices. Until those papers are filed.. and everything is done.. I will encourage her to "Do Something Different" and allow for "something" to change. I don't know what is going to change.. "something" will. And in the end.. it will be something good. Christa wins.. even if she can't "see" it now.
Christa.. Keep your head up.
I know you have a lot on you right now. You can do this.. I know you can. You just gotta believe.. or have some hope.. that this is gonna make a better you. There is a reason for all this.. it just takes a while sometimes.. to bring into focus what that reason is.
Relax Eat Think Act normal React.. Smartly. Do something different. Emulate. Do Work.
