Playhouse

[Yoyowife]

Sara,
It is surprising that the OW and MIL weren't in cahoots on this. Hmmm...wonder if they are not bffs anymore.

The thing about all of this is that the girls and I would have never done anything like this even in the best of circumstances because H has always been one who did not like attention focused on him, well, in that way anyway.

Before things went south, his family and I used to always call him Scrooge because of his bah-humbug ways. His mother and sister of all people should have known he would get pissed. But on the other hand I have seen his mother try to do "cutesy" things. Remember the crazy Halloween party last year?

[Yoyowife]

Whew, I didn't know that you could get a PMA boost at a gas station! With Ike heading to Texas I was warned that the refineries would be shut down and gas price would really jump today. I had to do some errands on my break today so I decided to stop and fill up my car. When I drove up I noticed the truck in front of me was from TX. I also noticed that the man standing by it was very attractive. He was talking on his cell phone. I proceeded to fill up my gas tank. When he got off the phone he turned around and smiled at me. He said that since he had been at the travel plaza for 10 minutes that gas had gone up 10 cents. I told him I noticed he had TX plates and asked him if he Ike would effect him much. He said not really, he was 40 miles south of Texarkana. He then told me he was told that they had already run out of reg. unleaded in his area. I told him to have a safe trip home. He told me to be safe too. I noticed he wasn't wearing a ring (ever notice how you pay attention to that now?). Too bad he was a Texan, LOL. Oh well, it was fun flirting though! Seriously, I need to get out more. HA!

[Sara]

Just got a text message from Deuxlie. The storm surge in front of Ike has flooded the towns of Mandeville and Madisonville, LA, just north of New Orleans. I don't know if the lakefront is flooding in New Orleans too. She said that the lake was so high the water was slapping the bottom of the bridge. She just crossed the bridge to spend the weekend in New Orleans for her anniversary. This looks like another big hurricane. I lived in New Orleans for 25 years, and I never saw the water come up that high except in Katrina. And this storm is going to hit all the way over in Galveston!

[Yoyowife]

Have you talked to N? I hate to hear that conditions do not sound good for New Orleans. Does she have a plan. This hurricane season needs to get over. We are supposed to get heavy rains starting tomorrow evening, but it is supposed to be faster moving than Gustav.

[Sara]

My daughter must be fine. She is still not returning my phone calls. I don't think this storm will hit New Orleans at all. But I am surprised at the high water level in New Orleans. The storm is really far away.

[Yoyowife]

Hi Everyone,
I swear my life could be a soap opera! If you have kept up with my thread for a while you will recall a few months ago that one of my dear friends left her husband for another man. This was in early July. The couple reconciled and she moved back in about 6 weeeks later. Friday I get a phone call from my friend's sister saying that she had left her husband Friday saying she wants to be with OM and wants a divorce. I was just at their house on Labor Day for a cook out and thought everything was going fine.

This is my friend who has supported me during my crisis. She was furious at my husband for having an affair. She thought they were both low-lifes, She listened to me, called me, got me out of the house, was just a wonderful friend in general. She saw how devastated I was and what it did to my kids. Now I can't believe she is the WAS! Her husband teeters on being furious and hating her, to not feeling like he can go on, her adult children are furious with her, her parents are both heartbroken and cry all the time, her sister calls me on the phone sobbing.

Honestly, I never thought my friend could be capable of doing something so destructive to her family. They say that the affair partner is addictive to them. I forgot to mention this man has nothing. You would not believe the "shack" he lives in. It is a old camper that has a room built on the front! It looks like he just found any scrap lumber he could get ahold of. She and her husband have a nice house, pool, a business, and nice vehicles. I know money does not buy happiness, but I think financial security is important.

I guess what I'm trying to convey is you just never know who has that " adultery defect" in them that will cause them to cheat. So don't beat yourself up thinking if only I had done this and that. Unfortunately, I think adultery can spin it's ugly web on anyone.

[Sara]

Whew, Yoyo! I was afraid you were going to tell us something really crazy that your H did. Your friend is a nut, and she will live to regret it. It's like that Goldie Hawn movie, "Overboard" where the really rich snob falls overboard and is taken in by the carpenter in his shack with 4 wild kids. Except in the movie, Goldie was the rich one, not her husband. your friend will wake up one day and realize that she has thrown away every good thing she ever had in her life. Funny how we don't seem to value what we have. At least a lot of people don't.

[NoCodeBlues]

Hi Everyone,
I swear my life could be a soap opera!

I think we could all say the same thing, Yoyo. Too much drama. Too many soap operas.

Or is that the people who write such things don't have to look too far to find source material?


I am so sorry about your friend. It is so shocking. My sister-in-law (SIL, married to my brother, lives in Sherwood) has a life-long bff-type friend from her high school in Shreveport. The have shared everything with each other, through thick and thin, and over the many miles now between them. The friend is married to her high school sweetheart and they have a teenage son who is (I think) a "prince" or something with one of the Mardi Gras crews there. The four parents had even arranged for their son to invite my niece to be his date for some Mardi Gras formal gathering or something. (My brother likes the boy and has laughed to me about arranging an "engagement" over long distance.)

Well, you can see where I'm going with this, and you can thus guess the shock and horror to my SIL when she found out her BFF is now leaving her husband for another man. My SIL had no clue, and would have sworn she was beyond such behavior and betrayal of a man her friend had held so highly. Their son is devastated.

Both my brother and my SIL have consoled me over the phone as I have gone through the stages of pain and horror at W's treachery. And now my SIL has expressed such distress that so many seemingly virtuous and sound-minded people can be so suddenly taken by this "addiction", and that under everyone's noses such things can happen. My SIL has told me she has lost a great deal of trust, and has doubts that she can really know someone else's heart and she has a newfound understanding for me that I could not know the real heart of my own spouse. Not that she didn't before, but now it is doubled for her with this revelation.

I told her to always maintain the lines of communication with your loved ones, and never take anything in this world for granted. Chances are something will change when you least expect it.

[Yoyowife]

My MIL has never been close to my girls. She has always been closer to H's sister's daughter. It probably has a lot to do with that SIL has been divorced a couple of times and after each divorce she always moved home with her parents. So it's easy to understand that MIL would have a stronger bond with her daughter and granddaugher. I bet I could count on one hand the times they have ever spent the night with my inlaws. As a result my girls aren't close to my MIL either.

Friday night at the ballgame H sat with me and was complaining that DD17 had not called his mother yet to let her know that she got on homecoming court. DD found out on Tuesday. I said, "She has been busy this week after school with the mini-clinic." ( they teach the elementary a dance that is performed at the HS game, it's a fund raiser for the steppers). He said "Well, she found time to call everyone else." I said, "Actually, I emailed some people, but you are right she should have called your mother. I'll remind her to do it." He said, "She shouldn't have to be told to do it." I agreed with him and changed the subject. I can't remember the last time MIL called to invite my daughters over or even to check up on them.

Yesterday evening when DD17 got home from the track I told her she needed to call her grandmother. She kind of hedged around. Oldest DD20 was over and she said, "Yes, you really need to I'm tired of hearing Dad complain." So DD17 went into the other room and was back in less than five minutes. This is the conversation that she had:

DD- I wanted to let you know I got on homecoming court.
MIL - Okay (in a very monontone voice)
DD- Here are the times of all the activities.
MIL - Okay
DD - I got my senior pictures in, I'll bring you one sometime this week.


DD said she never congratulated her or anything. It makes me so mad that H acts like my DDs should reach more out to her. All of their lives she has never had much to do with them. Recently, she invited OW and her daughter to go shopping with her and SIL and H's aunt. She did not invite my DDs! DD told her dad she thought that was wrong, he told her she needed to grow up. I realize that is his mother and he loves her, but why does he always see his DDs "faults" and not his mother's!

[kat727]

Because he is an a$$. Plain and simple.

kat