Summary of the situation is that my H and I have been S for 13 months. We went out on our wedding anniversary and had a nice time, but since then contact has been a little more sparse. He's still seeing the aubergine, although I'm not supposed to focus on that. Meanwhile, my CEO has stepped it up on the flirting front and I am finding myself responding with butterflies in my stomach.
At the last count, I think there was one fence sitter (Handsome), and 2-1 to CEO (vs H) in the looks stakes. Poor H- he is more beautiful than CEO, but it's a bit of a case of Brad vs Russell! I'm not able to make a definitive choice at this stage, although obviously H is my H, so in a sense he's already won the prize
Had a good weekend- relaxing at home yesterday and went to visit BFF and her family today. They're both very excited about this week's events.
Sunshine- thankyou for your last post. H, I think, has noticed something different in me. We'll see if it provokes a change in him, although I'm somewhat doubtful. I'm still planning to continue with DB on him though- complimenting, validating and letting him be in control.
Walk on, walk on, with hope in your heart. And you'll never walk alone.
Yay!!! I'm first !! Lisa, I must be going mad, but I cant see any H v CEO pics on FB!? And has contact really been that sparse? I thought he had ramped it up a bit last week, with asking you to lunch and then checking you were going to that work thing and wanting to watch the footy with you (but you turned him down, brilliantly).
Its a full moon in Pisces tommorow conjunct Uranus (planet oraziness and surprises)...on your H's Mercury (the mind) I'm not promising, but it may shake his brain up somewhat!
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
Your CEO is tiptoeing. For at least three reasons. 1. You are married, after all. 2. A relationship between the boss and an employee is a dangerous thing. 3. He is avoiding rejection.
He is a smart guy, he is not going to push much more, I don't think, without you giving him a clear indication of interest. Even then, he will be very cautious. If he isn't, I'd question his judgment, as it could be pretty damaging to his company.
I hate being serious! I think I should get some new socks!
I didn't see any pictures on FB either. Are they there? I'm dying to see...
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
Ali- I mailed you a couple of pics outside of FB. I'm not too keen on posting pics on FB because of privacy issues (possibly a little paranoid, but there you go!). Contact with H was more sparse last week- althugh we were in touch at the end of the week, there was hardly any e-mail traffic as compared with the past few weeks. Having said that, it's up to him what he does. I'm feeling detached today and am unbothered about him.
Handsome- you're very insightful- I think you're absolutely right about CEO, and his judgement is pretty good so I'd imagine things have gone as far as they will for now. New socks sound like a good idea. Maybe I'll put my falsies in and we can go on a hot date!!
Michelle- I'm glad yuo found me! Hope you had a great weekend!
ITH- no pics on FB (see my post to Ali), but I can bring some if you're in London next weekend.....
Day's pretty quiet so far. CEO is off sick with a cold. I have lunch with an old friend of mine, so looking forward to that.
I should be able to let you and Julia know by tomorrow about London. I would really love to come!
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
Lisa, Sounds like you are doing well! Detaching brilliantly! Although I am concerned about the possibility of your getting into a R w/CEO...I don't think it's a good idea as long as you are still M, and definitely is not good DB'ing! But that is just my opinion.
You mentioned on your last thread that your H's main reasons for becoming disenchanted with you were your hairstyle and the way you cook peas--are you SERIOUS?? If that is true, this man needs HELP. Preferably including a series of 2x4s!! You just don't leave a M for stuff like that!! That is CRAZY!
Okay, I'm mostly calm again.
It was very interesting reading your posts with all the jumping back and forth between H's world and CEO's world. I felt like I was watching a movie!
Sounds like you are doing just great! I'm so glad that you are able to detach and be happier!
Peace, Dawn
Me 45/H 47, no kids Together since 1985; M/1992 Bomb1 (EA-OW1, age 22) 2001 Bomb2 (EA/PA-OW2, age 22) 10/2007, A continues H left 11/24/08 minimal contact, no legal action http://tinyurl.com/DawnHope1
Not trying to hijack your thread but we've had a major H budget crisis, so I won't be able to make it to London after all :(.
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
Hey Lisa.. ok, thanks for the pics, cant wait to see those when I get home later! I remember now, I guess you two were exchanging quite a few texts and utube links before, thats true. So anything from him today? I was interested when you said:
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Having said that, it's up to him what he does. I'm feeling detached today and am unbothered about him.
..thats great! Are you really unbothered!? And how do you get to that state of detachment nirvana!??
Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
