"I still care about you and you can always count on me in an amergency or where it pertains to the kids, but OM is your partner now and this is not a healthy situation for me."
This sounds like "little boy" to me.
And it pushes her TO the OM.
And it gives the OM significance.
You were accomplishing the exact opposite of these three things with your handling of the situation PRIOR to going no contact.
The bigger man does NOT go on to the woman he loves about interactions with her "not being healthy for me."
Sleeper, if it really IS hurting you to be available to her, then simply make yourself less available. But refusing phone calls to the point where she starts thinking you don't want to talk to her seems entirely counterproductive to the result you would like.
I can understand that it could be frustrating to continue helping her and doing things for her, and STILL have her involving herself with him.
But the goal here is to show that YOU are the one she can't be without. The goal is to make YOU the one that she turns to, NOT him.
In MY opinion of course...
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
