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[istherehope]

Hi Jen,

I have SOOO many goals. I have a spreadsheet for September goals, not sure how realistic they are, but basically I have big goals that I break down into small goals. So the big goals (probably longer-term) are 1)H is feeling happy and healthy again 2) H feels comfortable around me 3)H commits to trying to make the marriage work 4)H commits to living in the same house with me

H feeling happy and healthy again was broken down into loads of mini-goals, of which many have been met. I think he's pretty close, things like him joking around, and saying positive things about non-alone activities.

H will feel comfortable around me:

The goals met here were that he'd call me a term of endearment, and that he would start being nice again on IMs and emails, things like "how are you".

Unmet goals include H to give me 1 compliment, H to talk about when I get back to Dublin in a positive way, even if indirectly, and H to be flirtatious in some of his contact with me

H to commit to being in the same house with me:

Goal is for him to say he misses me, even if indirectly like that the pets miss me

To start talking about something indirectly like "my side of the bed"

To ask me to stay at least 1 night at the house when travelling through Dublin

H to commit to trying to work on the marriage:

The only goal met here was sex, which maybe should have been under the "comfortable around me" section

H to make positive references to the future

H to say some positive things that he has been thinking about me/the R instead of only the negatives

H to say that he loves me

There are loads more too...anyway I think that we have to get to the point where we reach goal 1, him feeling happy and healthy before seeing significant progress against the other goals...

ITH