Thanks. I can only hope that "doing it by himself" doesn't have to mean another physical separation. We honestly can't even afford it, so we'll see what happens when I get back, or maybe just "show up" like Jody has suggested :).
I know you're right, I do have a lot of positives, and I guess it's hard sometimes when you compare your own positives to what you used to have rather than to what a positive looks like in this bizarro-world.
Positives:
H has NOT said IDLYA H has sort of said that he misses me H has agreed to no dating, sex etc. H still agreed to joint phone counseling sessions H makes fairly regular contact by IM/email We had sex when I was in Dublin last week, so there must be some feeling there H feels bad for how he is treating me, and mentions this frequently H appreciates and comments on the space I am giving him H has come a long way on his own out of depression H is really working to get himself well H sees an IC We still share all finances H has started joking around a little bit on IM and calling me nicknames every once inawhile H is not spending money recklessly; he is being very frugal
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
