Good revelation Jen! I have spend the past year analyzing myself. I know not really a DB technique - but how can you change things if you don't Look at yourself & see what needs to be changed?

Me - My mom & grandma are are nit picky critizers & do the micro managing stuff.

Expample - My grandma would always offer suggestions to my grandpa when he was fixing something. He knew how to do it & didn't need her help of advise. But she always did it.

Example - My mom this past xmas complained when her H left a spare cold room door open. He just went in there for 10 seconds to get some cold soda (or pop as I say). Now, if she goes in there for the same thing, does the same thing - it's ok.

I saw myself doing the same thing. It's it wonderful the bad habits we pick up from our parents!!!! \:\) Keep this in mind w/your D.

Me39, XH45
Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats
Divorced 6/4/09
Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)