I just called him with a revelation I had when talking to my Mom about an hour ago. She complains a lot about little things. For example her friend (who we've known for 32 years) just welcomed her first grandaughter a week ago. I asked Mom if she had seen the baby. She said "ummmph Diane has been in town for 2 weeks now and the baby was born 4 days ago and she hasn't even bothered to pick up the phone and let me know" I was like WTF? So I told her "Mom, Diane is thinking only of her GD not about calling you. You'll spend the whole time complaining that she never called you. You know the baby was born. Pick up the phone and tell her hi and congrats" She changed the topic lol
The revelation is that I am just like my Mom. I always expect other people to do exactly what I want or think they should do and it's caused me good friendships. So I called xh to tell him and he was impressed that I had finally realized this attitude doesn't get me very far. I told him next time he saw me he could give me a kick. He laughed and said it would be easy
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
