Hi nerraw, My personal opinion is don't push the M counseling issue. As others have told me if you make a step forward - be ready for your S to take a step back. This is a test for you, to keep the changes going w/yourself & show her the real YOU. What stage are you at? The friends stage? Be happy & be patient.
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)