Plodding towards my Path With Heart

[PhD_ChrisD]

Hi SD,

I am glad you came out virtually unscathed. Sometimes we have to make some tough decisions in the short term so that the long term is better. It sounds like W took it better than expected, this breaking out of limbo.

Now, a few things can happen. From what I know of your sitch, the most probable is a nasty court battle. Plese take care of yourself and do what you can to protect yourself from "dirty tricks" and other nastiness. However unlikely, another possibility is that she starts trying to be the perfect wife. If that occurs, you are going to have to figure out how you are going to react to that behavior.

One thing is for certain: one day she will take the short bus back from crazy-ville and see how she ruined her life and the lives of everyone around her. She will realize that she created this mess and now it is crashing in around her. It is hard to say when that will happen, but my observation is that it requires a forcing function. That function may be divorce court or some other "rock bottom" type scenario.

For my part, things are going well. Everything just sort of dissipated on its own; very strange occurance somewhat akin to a storm just running out of energy. My W is behaving super well, the children are great, work is working and all things are good. Honestly, I had a miracle and only God to thank.

Take care of you and the kids. Look on the bright side: you are starting a new adventure in life and you should embrace it. Sure it is sad how things work out, but accept that which you cannot change and work hard for your happiness and your childrens' happiness.

Best,
--Chris