It is starting again.

[holdingon]

I know your frustration, Lee. I think my H probably felt the same way... and look what happened. Someone posted yesterday about a book they were reading that said that one night you give a full body massage, avoiding breasts and privates and that is all, you don't go further... and do those kind of things but not sex.

I don't know how to make her want you more other than the thought of not having you. I know there is a guy in newcomers extrememly frustrated also. I know I did not realize what a gift sex was until my H left. Now, I know. If I ever get the opportunity of having my H in the same bed with me again, if he wants sex 3x daily I'll be there. I guess I'm saying that women sometimes use this as a control device, maybe unknowingly and it often backfires. I do know there are sex counselors out there, my friends go to one, and maybe you could go on your own. Thinking of you.