New Thread-Husband Moved in With OW(T2L)

[twinhope]

JGrind, reading about your R with your H sounds like I was writing it. I have know my H since we were 16 and he has been very insecure often not happy with anything. We have a real nice house and nice things and I asked him the other night if he misses me, kids, home, etc. He said no not the home it disgusts him b/c he feels it represents material things that he was obsessed with to relieve the pain from the lack of our R. Wow, I had no idea he was a great actor all these years. My b-day was in Dec and the threw me a huge surprise 30th party with all of our friends. He was announcing how much he loved me and I was his beautiful wife, fast forward to now and we barely talk. I am the one that said that my H feels like I have pushed him away even after he has left. What do we do with that. I have been following DB and it is making him angry or so he says. Maybe it is just him still blaming me for everything and by lashing at me it justifies why he has been hanging out with the OW. He only admits that they are just real good friends, whatever. I am sure friends with benefits.

We have a set schedule for visitation and it is one night a week and every other weekend for him with open access to visit or call me to visit when ever. It is crazy that whenever he does have them that he has to have the OW around. I really feel that our H are relying on people to make them happy instead of us separating finding ourselves and being able to reconnect. They need that void filler. Wouldn't we all like to have someone there with us just like before but we all know that they can never be our H that even though they are acting like this we love them unconditionally. Funny my H told me that I do not love him unconditionally, what does he think this mess is! It is 6yrs today and I am so sad, going to take my girls to church and lunch! I will be praying for us!

By the way I know a couple of us have mentioned MLC. My C told me that it can be an anytime crisis with all the same symptoms as a MLC. I hope that is what this is and that I can just stay on the ride and get through this so we can work together for a happy future. I don't want to give up but I know I need to move on with or without him!

Also JGrind, the deal with your kids and the OW. It is so wrong and our H have no idea what this is doing to our children may they be 2 or 11 and 14 like yours. They are in big time selfish mode and it is anything that makes them happy screw everyone else. I think a family C is great and our H need a child C b/c that is how they are acting.

Me-30
H-30
D-2
D-2
M-6 T-14
S-5/09/08