It sounds like you have a LOT to be happy and positive about! Yay!
I don't think you had a backslide in any way with your conversation. The one thing I've found is that there often has to be one of those moments where we do something risky to get an idea about real progress. I've seen in this in other threads too. Sometimes if you sow the seeds for long enough, it is OK to make a bold move. I'd say especially with someone who is depressed, feeling guilty, that they might need to get some form of reassurance before sharing their own feelings.
Well done!
ITH
Me:34 H:36 M:5 years T: 8 years Bomb: 07/17/08 I want to be separated for 6 months--I don't know what I want the outcome to be S 07/28/08-11/08/08 Living together ~7 months D Possibly busted?!?!!!
