I don't know who that man is behind the curtain 2

[Dawn of Hope]

You're doing really, really good in holding your own...

I don't have my contact lenses in right now, and when I first read this line, I thought it said, "You're doing really, really good in holding your NOSE..."

Probably an even better idea with JA! Maybe you can just say to yourself that his attitude stinks right now, but you have your nose clip on and you won't let it affect your equilibrium.

I don't feel qualified to offer advice about the whole kids thing, but in general, I think that it will be better for YOU if you remain above whatever trouble he is trying to stir up with you--refuse to stoop to his level or give him a legitimate reason to get mad at you, so he's reduced to grasping at increasingly elusive straws to justify what he has done/is doing to you. Not only will that improve your R with him faster (which I'm sure will be better for kids), and set a good example for your children, I think this will make YOU feel better because of knowing that you did the right thing despite his provocation. I'm not saying you should let him get away with anything he wants; just suggesting that you continue to "be the better man (woman)."

Hang in there; I hear that it gets better!

Peace,
Dawn