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[No Longer BH]

Donna, I have heard many wonderful things about Divorce Care. I have also heard many new relationship have come from DC as well. Just be careful not to go there until you are ready. It is so hard to let go, I know, but you are truly doing wonderful. I want to post something about the OW that I found on a different BB. If you have heard it or already read it I apologize. It has helped me to maintain my confidence and keep my strength. In fact, it helped me let go because I saw how broken my STBXH really is. I TRULY believe everything that is said:

Wayward Spouses ALWAYS affair down. They NEED someone beneath them, who will admire them and give them feigned respect. Your husband is not seeking out the younger, better looking woman, he is taking whatever opportunity presents itself and meets his needs for sex, admiration, and boosts his self-esteem. SHE IS NOT SPECIAL. If she happens to be younger and pretty that is just the luck of the draw and a RARITY...most of the time it IS NOT the case. After reading here you will discover that the OW could have been anyone and your husband's choice of OW was not in any way an indication or indictment of you as a beautiful, attractive, desirable, intelligent, mature, moral, loyal, spiritual woman, wife and mother. OW is, I guarantee, no match for you.

Think of it this way, your husband is behaving low and dirty. Thus it necessarily takes a pretty low class woman to admire him at this point ... DO NOT allow this trash to rock your self confidence. You may or may not have let yourself go...but you can get it back and be the classy, beautiful, respectful, upstanding, Grade A woman you always were whereas the Other Woman WILL ALWAYS remain trash."

I hope that helps you at least to see his actions have NOTHING to do with you. It is a reflection of him only. You deserve so much better than what his able to give you. Stand tall and see your worth. One day when you are ready you will find someone who is worthy of YOU!