Have you tried journalling them at all? Here or in a notebook (one your W couldn't find - or you could write them, then destroy the pages)? Another idea is one I saw on another thread - and have tried myself - to have a "conversation" with your W telling her the things you are thinking, only you really only say the things out loud to yourself. Sounds silly, but it helps me feel better to actually say them outloud.
Another idea is to make a list of all the positives that are occurring. Seeing them in writing helps them seem more real to me, which helps me see the progress we have made. This helps me to see that although things aren't exactly where they need to be, there are areas in which we have grown and improved our communication, etc.
Maybe set some new goals for this new stretch of your R. What are some small things that could occur within the next week that would be a baby step?
Also, be sure to get enough time to yourself to work out or pursue your other interests. Gives you time to recharge and takes the focus off the R somewhat.
After your W recovers, would now be a good time to plan that romantice w/e for just the two of you or is it still too soon and would seem like pressure?
Just a few ideas. Hang in there. You are doing a great job. Remeber to give it time for the hormone levels to get to where they need to be. She'll feel so much better. (((Lee)))
Mockers2
"Somehow we survive, and tenderness frustrated does not wither." Dennis Brutus, South African poet
"That which does not kill us makes us stronger."
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