She is afraid that if she does go out, that I would use it against her in the Divorce proceeding.
so she basically wants your permission to have an affair?? hell no, this isnt' ok with you and you should say so! tell her that as long as you both are M and living together she is just going t have to wait, not that you can make her do anything, but she needs to know you are not going to put up with such disrespect.
The speed of her wanting a D goes to show how desperate and looney she is, same with the wild abuse accusations, I dont' see how she can ever make you leave by makign up stuff like that.
As long as you both keep your talks away from the kids they can be spared the uglyness, of course they are not stupid and they'll tell soemthing is up. yOu can have a talk, all of you (talk before hand with W) and both of you let them know that you two are trying to figure things out and are going through some stuff now, nothing to do with them, that you both love them. I'm sure she won't a prob doing this for the kids.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.
