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[Gman3388]

I found out yesterday that my sister is in the hospital with pneumonia.She has a few strikes against her because she is in need of a kidney transplant and takes dialysis. To top it all of she is Bi polar thanks to a broken marriage and a real charmer of an ex hubby. She had marriage issues back in the 80's with this A**hole. Not only did he treat her like shite but he used to parade his girlfriends in front of my sister in there own home.
All this and left to raise 2 young daughters. She like me and my other sister, were raised to try and make marriages work. Not to give in.
She couldn't take the stress and did some time in a mental institution.
Fast forward to present day....
She is doing better. somewhat awake but in pain of course.
She knew I was there yesterday and today when I saw her.
But with all the meds that they are giving her for the breathing issues, she's off her meds. So she is going manic.
It gets painful to see her in such a state and I wonder just how much more can I take. I pray and God takes the burdens away.
I wonder though why damn good people must go through this [censored] that our spouses are putting us through. Why us? That's the 64,000 dollar question....

My W surprised me in a few ways through this all.
After the call from my mom, I called the W not only to tell her about sister but to have the kids say goodnight as we always do when she works. She was exceptionally busy so she couldn't take the call so her co workers said they would tell her I called.
I later texted her the news and in a few moments she had called home. She was still at work and said it was a rough night. She said she hated there and wanted either a few days off or wanted to quit all together.
She asked what was going on and told me next time to tell the coworkers that its a family emergency get W now!
She said she would be home as soon as she could.

When the wife got home she told me to take her car and gave me a much needed hug. She told me to keep her up to date on sister no matter what the time. (it was 11:30 pm when I left to go see sister)

Fast forward to today...
She again told me to go in today and see sister and that to be home before she had to go to work at 5. Her and the kids had a mommy day while I went in to visit.
I went in and visited for a while and during one of my updates W told me that the finance company for her car might repo it because we are a little behind unless they here from us.
I'm going to try and talk to W about this because a lot of things need paid and I cant do it all. I don't expect much but she needs to know that if she wants this car, she needs to help out.
Its tough for me to get everything paid and W knows this.
Yet she wants me to talk to the finance company. She joked if you help me with my car Ill help with yours. I say that because Mine (which I own) is in need of a state inspection. I sunk 175.00 in it today for a new windshield because it was cracked.
She knows a guy who own a garage and can inspect it for me.
She said she would pay for it too.

Later when I got home from the hospital I sat by W while she played a computer game on her comp. I got a few friend pats and smiles from her. She went in to shower up before work and called me in to ask a favor. (our washer and dryer are in the bathroom)
She wanted me to put a few things in the dryer while she showered. I proceeded to while she got undressed in front of me.
Something she hasn't done in months.
Made me wonder why actually.
Later I called for night nights for the kids and she got on the phone.. after W wished the kids goodnight she told me that she is going to hang out with her gf at the bar for a few hours.
Later I get a text saying that she is closing the bar and then going out to eat with gf.
I'm really having issues believing her.

Seeing my sister again today and seeing what she is going through and all that she has gone through I cant help but wonder.
How much more?