You are doing wonderful. If your wife can't see how wonderful you are she is an idiot. She is very lucky to have you fighting for your marriage. She will one day realize the full extent of everything you have done.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11