Snodderly is so right about your H...and what you should be doing for yourself. You can bet you very much in his thoughts, and I would imagine that even at this time he's second guessing what he's done...but who knows how long it will be before he could admit it to anyone...let alone himself.

I know exactly how you feel in regards to losing your home. I felt and still feel that way, and it's been 2 yrs post D. The house was nothing...a fixer upper...but it was our 'home', not just a structure. Our kids were raised there, it was where they were suppose to bring their friends, girlfriends and later wives and children to. Now what? He's in an apt. I'm in an apt. Yeah....we lost alot along the way to satisfy his needs/desires.
I would imagine that most men don't look at houses the way we women do...I think we are much more emotionally and sentimentally attached to them.

My boys were grown when the house was sold. ButBOTH of them went back to it after I had moved out, but before the closing, and took a walk through it. They both wanted to be in it one more time before it was no longer 'ours.' How's that for sad proof of what divorce can do to the whole family.

I shouldn't even admit this, but I thought AJ was your xh initials!!! LMAO Took me reading someone's post that 'he was a JA' to put it together. Duh!!!!!

You're doing really, really good in holding your own and sticking to the terms, and making sure he knows he has to too. You've got a lot to be proud of MrsH...none of this is easy, and I think they count on us being too weak to stand up to their tactics.

Some day you may feel differently....all of us may. But your feelings now are perfectly normal, and I think you handle yourself very, very well.

Women are angels. And when someone breaks our wings, we simply continue to fly...on a broomstick. We are flexible