Looking for some insight on my WAW

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Well spoke with wife today and bottom line is:

1. She doesn't love me anymore. But she doesn't know how she will feel in the future. She says it is unpredictable.

2. She wouldn't probably tell me the truth even if she were talking to the OM. I take that as she is still talking to the OM.

3. She thinks we should both just live our separate lives and see what happens, i.e. be with whomever we want and then see how we feel.

4. She thinks that there is too much pressure with her being in the house. That is why you decided to separate. She couldn't think. But now believes that a divorce is what she wants. Although if there is a quick out she doesn't want to take it.

Is this how all WAW feel. Geez. DBing is gonna be real hard. Wife sleeping with other guys but don't worry its because she is looking to feel the passion that has been missing in her life. Give me a break. Maybe I should give up.

Its always interesting to see how similar the relationships of complete strangers can be.

My W has told me virtually the exact same things. I grapple with feeling I should give up all the time.

Mine has even encouraged me to go out and find some NSA action! :-( Heck, sometimes I think I want to take her up on that!

So I am also sitting in your boat - but I have been in this boat a tad longer.

My advice: pull back. AKA - go dark, 180

Ex: I have told wife I am also feeling ready to throw in the towel and move on. Finally came out to friends, family & co-workers that we are getting a D

And now she is interested in the idea of trial separation 1st


I act excited about the idea of trial separation. I express desire to move forward in life, but never make same mistakes with my next girl. I ordered DVD from this site, started watching it. 2 days later, she watched it with me for about 1/2 hour and actually did one of the exercises with me!

Ok, Ok, trying not to be excited or get my hopes up..cause my WAW (while never leaving the house..yet) has gone back and forth on her desire for D for a long time now.

All I know - is if I talk about us - it pushes her away. If I talk about my life without her - it seems to draw her closer

Its friggin crazy. Its friggin tough. But nothing worth having comes easy. Hang in there. And unlike me, try not to fall on/off the DB wagon (I have moments of weakness that sets me back weeks at a time)