Thank you all so much for the support & the hugs. Very much needed.
I'm trying to turn it over to God, it has been a rough year to say the least. I just couldn't have imagined I would be where I am right now. We had a great M, ok I won't go there. I've got to think positive & let God take control.
I do worry about him tho, I don't think the hurricane is going to be in Austin but I can't help but think about him & hope that he is all right. It's hard to believe in the last 19 years that I haven't talked to him or seen him in 5 months. I hope he is thinking about me!!
Nlt, I'm sure your H does think about you quite often and about your life together. How can he not when you spent so many good years together???? Those happy times together did happen, you didn't just imagine them. I remember posting to you the M stats for WAS that actually marry their affair partner - about 3% that last (not very good odds). Given the fact that your H barely knew OW, the chance of this M working out is even less.
Me47 H46 S13 M16 Piecing since May/09
"Life is 10% what happens to us and 90% how we react to it." Lou Holtz
Thank you so much, I've been feeling so down today! Not really sure why, but you gave me such a lift just now by posting that!! I do remember you posting those stats earlier but had forgotten until you mentioned it.
I hope you are doing well. I haven't checked threads lately, I'm going to do that soon! I've just been really tired & depressed, I promise I will check on everyone soon!!!
Thanks again for those odds! That made me feel better!!!
Sorry NLT that you were feeling down and depressed. I was feeling sad today too. Not sure why, since my h is making progress, but it's not easy being in my position either.
You want more and then you can't have it.
Get some rest. Maybe you can try reading some new books, or new movies, or checking out the local coffee shop or library. Just getting out and see what you can do in your area.
Have you thought about a D recovery workshop or group? I am sure you are not interested in dating, but if you are maybe you might try that speed dating. I think that would be fun just to meet people. How about some clubs that meet in your local area that interest you?
Me 50 H 42 S 22 S 9 D 7 M 12 T 17 H moved out 8/2006 H moved home 1/2007 for 3 weeks H moved home 5/2011 for good
"Learn from yesterday ~ Live for today ~ And hope for tomorrow"
Glam, you are in a tough position! He comes over & acts like everything is fine & then leaves again. I'm sure he will come over one of these days & stay for good. Things are progressing very well for you right now, but I can see where you have those depressing days.
I think I'm just tired. I wonder what the future holds, I know that God will take care of that in His own time. I just keep wondering why I have to keep hurting, I didn't do anything wrong my H did & he is off having a good time & is not lonely.
I haven't really tried to do any workshops. And you are right, I'm not interested in dating right now. I can't imagine me being with another man. I don't know of any clubs that I would be interested in except with animals & then I would wind up with a whole bunch of them b/c I couldn't stand to leave them behind. I don't need any more the 2 I have cost a lot of money, but that is fine, they are my babies & they are getting me thru.
Tonight I watched a special on CBS about how a woman could get these men to fall for her & ask her to marry them. One of them she got to take out a huge life ins. policy with her as beneficiary, he wound up being shot & another man that was in love with her supposedly shot him, they both got 1st degree murder. But that just goes to show how some of these women know how to get these men. I'm just amazed!
A friend of mine just texted me & told me that she gave my phone number to this guy that is a friend of her husbands. She told me he is really sweet & nice & a good guy. I'm not ready for this!!!!!!!
She did say that if we don't want to date at least we can talk. She did tell him that I was recently D'd & that I probably needed a friend to talk to. This just about scares me to death!!! Here my H is out having a good time with OW & I can't see myself going out with anyone.
Ok, had to vent a little. Feeling very down today!
Well, as long as he knows this is just a friend thing. Maybe your friend could have a BBQ or something very casual where a few people are invited. It would make it less uncomfortable for you.
You really do not know that your H is having a good time or not.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
Hi nlt, I am sorry you are sad. I know how you feel about not being ready for another R. I am still not ready for one, although H left more than 3 years ago! (((HUGS)))
I do not think you need to enter into a R unless you want to but since you do not want to, and he already knows, like i said, a group setting amongst friends sounds better to me.
Just my .02 worth.
The Bomb: 08/05 H moves out: 06/2006 H moves back: 01/07 & Out again: 01/07 H moves back: 03/08 & Out again: 04/08 H moves back: 05/09 & Out again: 07/09 Divorced 08-12 Kids: 22, 20, 19
You are so right! I don't mind a group thing but I'm concerned about going out with him. My friend told me he should go with me to our class reunion! I really don't want to go to that by myself but I don't know.
In my heart I feel like it's not over with H just yet. I could be so wrong about that but it has been such a short time for me!
