I haven't heard from him since he left last night. I guess I'll hear something later since he has to pick up D tomorrow. But I won't be the one to call or text since I think it's his responsiblity to deal with the pick up so he should call me. If I had to pick her up I wouldn't expect him to call me.
He told me to let it go so I'll give him his space.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Last night I saw how easy it is to let it go and enjoy the moment.
You sound wonderful!
You can backslide now and then, but once you've done it and really "let go and enjoy", you will start doing it more often, until you're free. I'm also trying to practice it right now. My goal is to get someplace where he cannot reach and/or hurt me anymore :).
I ask not for a lighter burden, but for broader shoulders ____________________________________________________ M 46 H 45 D 17 M/T 23 Bomb #1 (ILYBNILWY) 12.06 Bomb #2 (OW) 12.07 Bomb #3 (chose OW over M) 9.08
Hi Stella, I think you're doing so well. You're detaching little by little and you're almost there!
He dropped by today to get D. He woke us up I opened the door for him and we went to wake D up. While she was getting ready we sat on the sofa and snuggled I leaned up against him and he put his arm around me, rubbed my belly and we just chatted. Assumption here but I think he doesn't like D to see us being close I guess so she doesn't get any ideas. They left and I kissed D and then xh on the cheek and he whispered "cuidate" which means basically "take care".
Oh and we're going to start our tennis lessons on Wednesday at 11am. Cool, finally. We took lessons last year for a while together had fun. This will be the perfect opportunity to DB
I think I like baby steps.
**Side note** and this might be over analyzing but for a guy who claims to have "moved on" he doesn't have much of a social life. He said he had some errands to do yesterday but by 2PM he was on his computer and was using it all day. I know this because he was signed into Google and he only uses Google on his computer. He said he was on it until 3am and actually fell asleep with his clothes on....some life eh? And Friday night was the same. Moved on? I guess not so much?
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
If we aren't supposed to believe anything they say and half of what they do then what do we do when our S says ILY? I heard that this 0% vs 50% is only for MLC? So what % do we believe if we're talking about DAM/DAW and not MLC???
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Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Hey Jen, Ofcourse he has not moved on. I read your thread & you should be so grateful for how much responsibility he takes with your D. He spends mucho - amount of time with her. He's waiting, he's waiting to see if you can really change. BTW - what's his LL?
Now - don't start that spying crap again ......
Coach, you & I - had positive actions/news for this week - lets all keep it going!!!!!
Maybe with your tennis lessons - you can also use that to GAL & find others to play tennis with.
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
Hey MsM...I am so grateful for XH and he's a wonderful Dad. Someone asked me why I stayed here after the D and I told him that D needs her Dad and it would break his heart for me to go back to Canada with D. I could never hurt him like that.
I'm also grateful for what I do have with him and I think it's important for me to show him that. His LL is WOA, he loves it when I show appreciation. He has stated in the past that he never felt appreciated . When I read The 5 LL I had an epiphany. My coach has suggested I try and give him thanks when I can.
I think the tennis lessons will be great. He laughs at me so much because I'm not so good at it but he can tell I like it just the same
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Very good Jen!!! I'm just gonna be yr cheerleader today and say that you are maintaining great.
. When I read The 5 LL I had an epiphany. My coach has suggested I try and give him thanks when I can.