Train In Vain - Infidelity? - Help - Need Advise!!

[Coach]

He asked if I wanted help tearing out the rest of the bedroom carpeting.

This is good didn't you two spend a lot of time together doing things before. Plus he is helping you. It's easier for guys to open up when we are busy, we don't have to make eye contact the whole time we don't analyse everthing because we are multi-tasking. I know that's not the most effective technique but it works. Then you guys do more "work" togehter. He needs this with you.

I asked if he has ever thought of us getting back together? He said yes, but didn't think that I wanted him anymore.

What's his objection? He's worried about what you think. You can show him now. This won't be easy but it is huge for you.

Ok, intermission time - it was 11:30am ..... and we stopped to have a martini break & continue our R talk. (Yes, a martini break at 11am).

I want to party with you! That's great! Was this a surprise to him?

He mentioned that he has been talking to his IC about our M and has been wondering with all that has happened between us if I still wanted to stay M. He talked about getting an annullment to protect my assets from his debt. And that we could still work on the M, even if we did get an annullment. I really didn't say yes or no. I mentioned that I had gone to see a lawyer about this to put my mind to some type of peace.

He said it again, he's wondering about what you are thinking - will you take him back? Plus he looked into how not to harm you financially.

I said this year has been a good year for learning about myself. WE basically ended it with that & he started talking about his bandmates M problem. (Sounds like his bandmate is doing DB too).

He just heard what you have been up to. He's reassured about your love, your character and that you are a catch. So now he's comfortable to change the subject. He wouldn't have moved on if he had doubts.

Then you got some affection! Come on you don't feel pretty good right now?
Now be ready for himn to pull back a little, so don't go rushing in. Start thinking about how you can reconcile. I just lost power so I'll wrap up.
All the work on you is paying off. I'm glad for you.
(((((((MsMel))))))
Cheers friend