Oh and just because you had an R talk doesn't make it a cheeseless tunnel. A cheeseless tunnel is doing the same thing over and over without getting results. But you got results today you see.
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
Thanx for checking up on me Jen I sure hope I left him wth more positives than negatives. I sure hope you are right. Thanks for no 2x4s ......;) Guess, this place will have to be my hobby.
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
If you had had a lot of R talks with the same end result then that would be cheeseless. You reacted 100% different this time so you deserve a pat on the back not a 2X4!
Jen *The more anger towards the past you carry in your heart, the less capable you are of loving in the present*
MsMel, I just read it. You sounded like you were strong and did not get emotional. So what is your feeling now? Any other contact? Way to go girl!!
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
So what is my feeling now ...... well, I do feel stong & confident. I feel hopeful, that maybe we are at the point to build on this & really become friends again.
Me39, XH45 Kids 3 dogs, 2 cats Divorced 6/4/09 Tricky thing is not how you live, but how you live with yourself. (POTC)
He asked if I wanted help tearing out the rest of the bedroom carpeting.
This is good didn't you two spend a lot of time together doing things before. Plus he is helping you. It's easier for guys to open up when we are busy, we don't have to make eye contact the whole time we don't analyse everthing because we are multi-tasking. I know that's not the most effective technique but it works. Then you guys do more "work" togehter. He needs this with you.
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I asked if he has ever thought of us getting back together? He said yes, but didn't think that I wanted him anymore.
What's his objection? He's worried about what you think. You can show him now. This won't be easy but it is huge for you.
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Ok, intermission time - it was 11:30am ..... and we stopped to have a martini break & continue our R talk. (Yes, a martini break at 11am).
I want to party with you! That's great! Was this a surprise to him?
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He mentioned that he has been talking to his IC about our M and has been wondering with all that has happened between us if I still wanted to stay M. He talked about getting an annullment to protect my assets from his debt. And that we could still work on the M, even if we did get an annullment. I really didn't say yes or no. I mentioned that I had gone to see a lawyer about this to put my mind to some type of peace.
He said it again, he's wondering about what you are thinking - will you take him back? Plus he looked into how not to harm you financially.
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I said this year has been a good year for learning about myself. WE basically ended it with that & he started talking about his bandmates M problem. (Sounds like his bandmate is doing DB too).
He just heard what you have been up to. He's reassured about your love, your character and that you are a catch. So now he's comfortable to change the subject. He wouldn't have moved on if he had doubts.
Then you got some affection! Come on you don't feel pretty good right now? Now be ready for himn to pull back a little, so don't go rushing in. Start thinking about how you can reconcile. I just lost power so I'll wrap up. All the work on you is paying off. I'm glad for you. (((((((MsMel)))))) Cheers friend
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
I sure hope I left him wth more positives than negatives. I sure hope you are right. Thanks for no 2x4s ......;) Guess, this place will have to be my hobby.
And had a kinda packed duffle bag on the bedroom floor. He didn't ask about either.