My wife insists that she wants to start dating or spending time with male friends. She said she wants to get on with her life and start experiencing new realtionships. We have been together for almost 20 years--I was her first...and only until recently.
I want to give her space and time to figure things out, but does dating or going out with other men necesary at such an early juncture?? I can not control her and she will do what she wants, but this whole situation of us getting a divorce is still relatively new-- about a 1 month.
I think this is part of the WAW and she needs to get answers on her own. She is afraid that if she does go out, that I would use it against her in the Divorce proceeding.
The thought of her being with someone else hurts, but again, I need to get over it. She talked to me about her failure to ever have orgasms--and essentially blamed me. She wants to find out if she is "broken"--or she could experience pleasure with sex. I have tried for years with her and through therapy to address this issue to no avail. I can say that her own sexual pleasure is her own responsibility--and can't place the whole blame on me.
The thought of another getting her there is a killer, but maybe its for the best...as I keep trying to tell myself.
I will continue to GAL and work on me and the kids, but the talks with her are killing me. My friends and family want me to go semi dark--only dealing with kids issues... I need to do that, but its hard.
