I don't know if my words were kind but the thoughts were well meant. If you can't go to your family, how about some of your family visiting you? That's always a good thing. Have you asked any, told them you needed them?
Asking for help is something I STINK at.. but am learning to do a little better.
What about taking a weekend away when she has the kids. It doesn't have to be extravagant just away from where you are. Get outta the rut!
Seee... I should be taking my own advice but I am much too adept at making excuses. So I come here, holler at you.. and inside go... "Oopsie this is about me!"