I agree with everything Sara said. But at some point I think you also have to decide when to stop tolerating your H cheating and disrespecting you. I think it hurts your self-esteem and PMA and all that to live with a cheating H. But Puppy knows way more about that than I do!!! I do also think 180s and DBing and GALing will help you, increase your self-confidence and make you stronger which is really good. Karen
