How bout you tell the C what you posted here about hte communication wheel. That h takes what you say and turns it round on you later?
I shared that.. he validated & said he understood & would feel the same way and make similar choices if someone disrespected & ridiculed him in that way.
He looked at H and said are those the kinds of actions & words you are looking for when you get angry and choose to say the things you do to Bridge? H replied, no.. I want her to stop pushing my buttons & making me angry.
The counselor reminded him that me sharing my thought, feelings & wants (using the wheel) was not 'pushing his buttons' it was allowing me to be an equal in the room which H claims he wants. C walked him through how his actions of degraded, ridiculing what I share (even weeks later) sabotages what H really wants.
How are things with you?? Bridge
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
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