Sorry Bridge if this offends you but he is being a Jackass!
yeah.. that thought goes through my head occassionally. I try to turn it into 'he is acting like a jackass'.
Originally Posted By: distressed 67
I like your boundries and the not answering his calls if you don't want to. I would keep all comunication with him limited to your kids and MC for now until her learns how to treat you with respect.
but don't we teach people how to treat us? I'm struggling with him learning, with me teaching... especially when he uses 'my teaching' as a nasty thing when he is angry.
The C. did tell him that he was responsible for his actions/words and that no one 'makes you say something you don't want to say'.
Of course, he was Mr. Angel in C. nodding, agreeing, being just the right amount of regretful, etc.
But the C. (& this brought tears to my eyes) looked at him & said.. how much different do you think Bridge would view you if you acted the way you do in here with her on a regular basis.
I have kept the phone boundary in place, explained to the C why I was not willing to communicate with him about R stuff in person & my fear & mistrust, giving H's actions when I do share.
The C. validated.. "I would feel the same way if someone ridiculed & disrespected me and would make similar choices."
I'm hoping to eventually get to where I don't need the C to validate my choice, but for right now... it was reassuring. Which helped build my confidence.
Thanks for your support in that too! Bridge
Divorced 03/2010 Mom to two amazing kids
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