Mrs. H, I suggest that if you have any other bills that are in his name, that you get them transferred over to your name as quickly as possible. What about the car insurance?
They do this stuff to "show" us that they are cutting the ties and the more they cut, the better they feel. They don't stop to think about the fact that their feelings for us are still running very deep. The anger is a sure sign that the feelings for us are still there. They lash out because they can't get rid of those feelings. Besides, if someone hated you that much, do you honestly think that they would be up in your face each and every day like he is? Most people may have a word or two w/you and then leave you alone.
As for his behavior, I have to agree..you can't love it. He's acting out and one day, he's going to want to be "friends" w/you again. It's not going to be right away....probably 2-3 years down the road, once the anger is gone and the euphoria of his new life has gone dull and tarnished for him. That's when you will be able to clearly and honestly determine if you want another relationship with him.
For now, do what you need to do to protect yourself. Get his name off of as much as you can. Pamper yourself. We are all here to support you in any way that we can.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
