Treese, Your h is somewhat acting like a child, hoping against, hope that the nightmare is just that....a nightmare. He's still very much in denial and the more he has to face the consequences of his actions (dna testing), etc., the more he's going sweep it under the rug. He's scared to death of what is going to happen. Yes, he may be acting casual on the outside, but none of us knows what really is going on inside of him. Some men want to give the appearance of being all macho, etc., but deep down, they are shaking in their boots and I bet your h is the same way.
You are looking for and expecting him to be reacting a certain way. Expectations have to be tossed at the window. You have to remember.....he's not the man you once knew. He's going to react differently and most likely like he would have as a teenager or let's say this....the exact opposite of what he once would have done.
Treese, keep the focus on you and your children. Allow God to watch over and "handle" your h and his behavior.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
