And btw, everyone in our families think the counselor dropped the ball on a lot of things (she is seeing a new one now, but who knows if that one is any better ?)
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BTW, how can it be called marital counselling when only one spouse was there ? She claims to everyone she was going those 7 yrs. alone for marriage counselling, trying to save our marriage.
She only ever asked me once (last fall) if I wanted to go by myself to see C. I said, well, maybe, but the only thing I thought I might talk about was my frustrations w/ W., which I didn't think would change.
But apparantly in retrospect she was actually saying, ' You need to go, buddy, cause you're the one who is messed up'.
So is still going to 'marriage' counseling? Here is what I would suggest... Talk to her and tell her (if this is truly what you want - I'm guessing it is cause you are here) that you want to work on saving the marriage. That you love her and want to fix the marriage. Tell her that you want to go to counseling with her and you'd also be willing to do some individual counseling. Sounds like there is a lot that is not getting communicated. (I think this is a common ailment around these parts)
