Has something happened that has taken you to the point that having contact with her is unhealthy for you?
Seems to me that the Sleeper who was showing his strength in the presence of the OM was the one who was really showing his wife who the better man was.
Sometimes our impatience will drive us to actions that produce the exact opposite of what it is we hope to gain.
You've spent some time now proving to your wife through your actions that you were someone she could always count on.
That is NEVER bad. I don't care what anyone else says.
Have you read the "I became my wife's best friend" story on the main page of this site? I'm convinced that the approach outlined there is one of the most effective ways to slowly but surely win our way back into our spouses hearts.
The problem is, it requires enormous patience.
It will take time for her to leave behind the trappings of the new life.
There were posts by you, not so long ago, that suggested that OM was slipping in the daily polls. Meanwhile, you seemed to be rising with every friendly act and good deed.
Yeah, sometimes you feel taken advantage of. And sometimes you probably are.
But isn't this the woman that you love with all your heart? Isn't this the woman that you would do almost anything for?
If she is sending out the vibe that your present course is succeeding only in pissing her off and making her think that you are not interested in contacting her, you have to ask yourself a question.
Was that your goal?
Because if so, stay the course.
If not, might be time for an adjustment.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
