Everytime you start digging too deeply into the analysis end, and start forgetting about the living end of things, you start cycling.
I believe your wife can pick up on when you are cycling. And to this point, I think it has made her doubt the sincerity of your changes. I think it makes her wonder if she's being played in a sense.
I wonder sometimes if that isn't what provokes "the talk" that she has delivered to you periodically.
Rather than waste valuable time and effort, both physically and emotionally, on trying to perfectly assess her state, how much more would you gain by instead choosing to pour everything into finding out just how wonderful a guy you can possibly become?
DB'ing compels us to make life long positive changes. It urges us to become once again the man our wives fell in love with - only better. It directs our focus OFF trying to figure out the emotional state of our spouse and urges us to instead look in the mirror and see what more can be done.
Become the man that she cannot bear to be without.
You are moving in that direction. The camping trip and her response to you aftewards seems to make that clear.
You have shown her such love, tenderness, selflessness, and humility. You have become the husband who cares about what will build UP his wife, rather than what satisfies him.
And with the camping trip, you showed her a man who is more than capable of grasping life by the tail and wringing out as much fullness from it as he can.
What is unattractive about ANY of that?
The walls are coming down.
No, the crisis is not yet over. But the tide is beginning to turn. And the momentum is beginning to build.
Your job is to ignore the analysis. Your job is to continue growing as a real man, husband, and father. Your job is continue loving her with your every breath.
You're doing great.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
