How are things going? Did you have the Big Convo yet?
Yes we did. It went about as expected. I got a mixture of sadness, quietness, and ANGER back from her. She accused me of being selfish, arrogant, an f'ing thief, only concerned about money, not caring about our kids, etc. etc.
She, on the one hand, says that she will do anything for our kids. On the other hand, she threatened (again) to tell the kids that it's all my fault. Also wanted to tell me what I was thinking and has already concluded that we will have an ugly court battle.
I let her rant and responded with mostly "I'm sorry you feel that way." I hope it helps to diffuse things a bit. I also asked her to not decide what I am thinking in advance, but rather to negotiate for what she wants instead.
It seemed to work somewhat as she did ask for a few specific things after that which I agreed to include in the settlement I am filing.
I am very happy that I was able to do this when the kids were in school and also that I was able to maintain a calm, collected demeanor throughout, if with a few tears in my eyes. No anger or accusations from my side.
Interestingly, when there were a few long pauses in the convo, I found myself thinking back on the best of times...when we were on our honeymoon in Europe, when the kids were born, etc.
So, other that feeling completely exhausted right now, I don't seem too much worse for the wear.
Have a great weekend, SD
Me 41 W 41 Kids: S9 S7 Married 16 years Bomb dropped 2/2/07 Still living together! current thread
