She doesn't want to get a house with me because she has little trust in me. That is going to take time to build. Although it is not common, there are lots of men and women who are best friends who are never and have no desire to be lovers. I understand that that is hard for most of society to understand and I do appreciate your words. She is going to move in with this guy with or without my help as she cannot get a place on her own and it is really hard at where she is know. I have offered to help her get a place on her own, but she doesn't feel that she can depend on me yet to keep any commitment to give her extra money each month to help with a mortgage/rent payment.
Her primary motive is about our daughter. Why would she co-sign a house with me when trust still needs to be built? I spent a long time destroying that foundation. It is going to take twice as long to build it back up.
Thank you for bringing up the other side of the coin though. I know that you are just trying to watch out for me. I understand that I am in very dire situation and the odds are very slim right now. But like I said in a previous post - nothing great in life is without a sacrifice. I'm sure some folks will think I'm quixotic - but I am not ready to give up - although I might feel like it.
