I have been reading this post and the previous one. Keep up the good work looks like you are having an uphill struggle with your W at the moment. Just a thought: maybe W is testing you with this coming off BC thing. Your 180 is no intimacy, this comes right at same time as her expressed desire to have another baby. Maybe she is thinking he doesn't want intimacy because he doesn't want a baby. (I mean I know you don't right now) but maybe she is reading it wrong you know what I mean. I think she is focused on the baby thing and nothing else at the moment. Women can get that way My sister got a 2nd baby out of her H right before she threw him out. She knew the M was on the rocks but she also wanted 2nd child and wanted them to be true sibs. Also I guess she didn't want to have to wait around to find new partner. I know it's a hateful thought and I don't want to bring you down or anything but your w's attitude combined with wanting the baby kind of sounds like the same thing to me Tread very carefully you are doing a great job so far. Maybe you should talk to her about the baby and talk about being good parents etc, working on R from that point of view.
take care
Fran
if we can be sufficient to ourselves, we need fear no entangling webs Erica Jong
Tread very carefully you are doing a great job so far.
