Not really getting anywhere with W of course. She pushed a little harder this week through her L. Whenever she does this, I tend to backslide a little...cannot stand it when she pushes the inevitable.
She proposed we sit down together and divide all our stuff up because her L is getting too expensive. Problem with that is it's too complicated, she's terrible with finances, and, she cannot even agree on an even holiday schedule for the kids, even when three other people are sitting there at the table advising her. She's in for a terrible surprise when we start digging through the $$ stuff.
Here's a reply she gave me by email to a little of my backslide...
"I am sorry you feel that my emails are cold and that I am cold to you. I try to have a conversation. The bottom line, we want 2 different outcomes...I think our relationship will be very bumpy for a while. But hopefully one day it will be ok.
I think your house looks great and you are doing well...I hope that you are positive around the kids. I am not sure why you think the kids are not doing well. What exactly concerns you? I would like to know...and S12 has always had a stomach issue...What would be great is if you could call that number and get a counselor referral for D9. The one S12 went to did not take kids under 10...
I do wish we could talk. You are right that I am not great at finances but I think I understand 50-50...It is funny...when you were trying to do the vacation schedule for the holidays, I specifically remember you doing it so you had the kids 10 days at xmas and I had them for 5 days...you're right...maybe we shouldn't meet. I may not be good with finances...but you are not so good and even splits.
Have a good day..."
You can see a lot of anger, agitation, and sarcasm in what she writes. I am amazed at how angry she is over stuff and rewrites the history of events over and over again. She wont admit to anything nor engage in any talk about us at all. She is so detached and gone. She ignores most everything from me, wont look at me when I drop off the kids, wont get out of her car when she drops off the kids, etc...yet, I am the one that wont communicate. She thinks our relationship will get better after divorce. I dont think there will be a relationship at all. She is totally naive to the changes in our kids. Its sort of hard to explain, but I dont think our kids are doing all that well. She would never see or admit that.
My only reply to her email was 'i wished you had called that number (counselor) a long time ago (for her)..so long'. She had promised me many times she would go and talk to someone. Never did. Just talked to her divorced buddies. Misery loves company.
I havent heard from her since. I have the kids this weekend, so I'm sure she's just beginning the party.
